Subtle influences
The ripple effect of our choices
Whenever I decide to make noodles, I can’t help but think of my friend Seyil, who generously packs her noodles with vegetables. Even if the memories of that season spent together have blurred over time, this particular detail remains vivid and unmistakable.
I am sure she doesn’t prepare her noodles that way to shape people’s perceptions or choices. However, my response to her action speaks volumes about the subtle ways we absorb traits from those around us, both positive and negative. It serves as a reminder that our actions can have a ripple effect on others, influencing them in ways we may not even realise. Proverbs 27:17 reminds us that, “Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.” The influence we wield, even in the simplest acts, can significantly impact those in our circles, whether they are friends, family, or acquaintances.
In an era dominated by the phenomenon of social media influencers, we often find ourselves echoing the sentiments of those we admire. When we engage with content—be it written articles, podcasts, or videos—it becomes apparent that many opinions reflect the thoughts of these “influencers.” The lines between genuine inspiration and mere imitation can sometimes blur. We can find ourselves adopting the lifestyles, opinions, and even eating habits of others, often without realising it.
Yet, it’s essential to recognise that each of us is an influencer in our own right, regardless of our follower count. Our impact extends beyond our immediate circle to those who observe our actions from a distance. As Matthew 5:14-16 states, “You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house.” Our lives serve as beacons of light, illuminating pathways for others and providing them with guidance, whether we are aware of it or not.
This brings me to the importance of living authentically. As I reflected on this subject, I felt it was important to clarify that I am not advocating for a lifestyle dictated by the scrutiny of others—quite the opposite. Seyil doesn’t pile her noodles with vegetables because of me; she simply enjoys a healthy meal and it unconsciously rubbed up on me. Authenticity is crucial because it not only allows us to remain true to ourselves but also encourages those around us to do the same. So, no fake life because people are watching!
The question then arises: how do we cultivate a life that genuinely reflects our values and beliefs? For many of us, this means embracing our identity as Christians and guiding our choices and actions in alignment with our faith. As Colossians 3:23 reminds us, “Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men.” This scripture invites us to approach every aspect of our lives, whether large or small, with integrity and purpose.
Living authentically also means recognising the unique influence we have on the world around us. Our choices, whether in our personal lives or on social media, can inspire others to strive for their best selves. When we embrace healthy habits, engage in meaningful conversations, and express our beliefs with sincerity, we contribute to a culture that values authenticity and integrity.
Finding the courage to be ourselves can be challenging but rewarding in a world filled with distractions and competing narratives. By embodying our beliefs and values, we foster personal growth and become genuine sources of inspiration for those around us.
I’m not sure Seyil would have thought that how she makes her noodles we have a ripple effect that would lead to this reflection, but here we are. Each of us has the power to influence, to inspire, and to uplift.
Let us make our influence one that reflects our true identities, encouraging others to do the same.
📖 Current Read: In the last week, I read “Bended but not Broken” by Nenkinan Deshi and “Writing for Media and Monetising It” by Azu Ishiekwene.
In his memoir, Nenkinan tackles profound themes like solitude, identity, purpose, and resilience. Mr Ishiekwene’s book, a gift from Mr Funsho Aina, Senior Manager of External Relations at MTN Nigeria and a veteran journalist, arrived just a few days ago during my visit to MTN’s headquarters. Most of Ishiekwene’s work strongly resonates with insights I've gained over the past six months in my postgraduate studies in media innovation.
🍿 Things that I have enjoyed recently:
Aside from the books, I found this conversation between Trevor Noah, Lupita Nyong’o, and Christiana Mbakwe on what’s in an accent very insightful.
Glad you're enjoying Lupita nyongo podcast. That episode was inspiring 👏